By: Shelby Pruitt

I had just picked him up to take him to Sunday Morning Worship.  That was when he asked the question from the back seat…”Pastor Shelby, can I get baptized today?” This was going to be an exciting conversation. 

I asked him why.  “Because I’m ready, and I want to be baptized, today!”   I told him I couldn’t baptize him that day, but we could talk about it,  He asked why not, reiterated that he was ready, he believed, and he loves Jesus. He wanted to be baptized before worship. Then he began to tear up.  A love for the Lord, an intense desire to be obedient in baptism, and tears!   Look out river, here we come!  But I have had many conversations with him.  I know his tendency to emotions and spontaneity.  So I asked him why it had to be today, why he couldn’t wait? He said that if he wasn’t baptized today,  then he couldn’t “have the Lord’s Supper”.  He wanted to be able to take the Lords Supper with the church. 

Aha, turns out it was my wife’s fault.  Not really, but she had been teaching her Sunday School class about the meaning of the ordinances.  That baptism is very important, but doesn’t save, nor make one savable.  She taught them the meaning and importance of the Lord’s Supper, and that it should only be taken by those who are baptized.  I could see a nine year old wanting to participate, but to be crying over an oyster cracker and some juice seemed a bit much.

It turns out that he had confused the Lord’s Supper with the meal we were having after worship.  His nine year old mind had figured out that if he wasn’t baptized, he would have to sit there (stomach rumbling) and watch us eat. When I explained the difference his tears dried up, he was smiling, and asked what we were having for lunch.  I’ve wondered how many pastors would have baptized him without further investigation.  He said many of the right words. 

It is easy to get baptisms if we want to.  I’ve had many children ask to be baptized. I’ve had parents ask me to baptize their children.  Our church ministers to children in some nearby apartments, and this past year I could have easily baptized 20-30 children without even trying, imagine the potential if I would have tried to enticed them to be baptized. Several have told me they were baptized in other churches, but they want to be baptized at our church. One little girl thinks she was baptized, but cannot remember for sure.

There is a girl who has asked on several occasions, but I’ve not baptized her. We show her love and minister to her with both grace and truth. She does have many personal issues, but has not demonstrated repentance or faith. She stopped coming for several weeks. When she showed back up, she told us she had been baptized at another church. I don’t doubt that. I’m sure she is now a statistic in that church’s annual report… another child who has “made a decision”.

There is an effort to raise baptism numbers, an effort that I do not believe is God honoring.  When the only consistently growing age group for baptisms in the past 30 years is five and under we have jumped off the credobaptist rails. Our job isn’t to get young children (who are eager to please)  to say that right words and then immerse them as another number. Our job is not just to get them wet, but to call sinners to repentance and faith in Christ and Christ alone. Our effort should be to get the gospel to the lost, to see those who are dead in sins be regenerated. New creations in Christ will want baptism, along with membership, discipleship, accountability, and service for Christ. And that is when the truly hard work of discipleship begins. But we don’t want to be a stumbling block to children by confusing them with a pre-conversion “believer’s baptism”. 

As pastors we’ve been called to an awesome and glorious mission. We are “under shepherds” serving the Good Shepherd who has allowed us the “privilege to participate in the process” (thank you Bill Faye for the great alliteration). We are not called to be novel, or creative, or even enticing, and certainly not manipulative..  We are called to be faithful. James tells us “Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness.” James 3:1 ESV .  The author of Hebrews wrote “… leaders … are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account” Hebrews 13:17 ESV.  This verse is a sobering warning for every pastor. 

I’m afraid that when the time to give an account is at hand, when our works are tested by fire…many of our numbers (baptisms, attendance, membership rolls, and CP giving) will be consumed like chaff.. To be clear, these are all good things, but should not be our focus. These things should be the natural result of a God glorifying focus on Christ and His gospel.

By the way, that young man is now 10, and is memorizing scripture, catechism questions, and hymns.  He can intelligently answer questions for me that I believe many adults would struggle with. He really does show remorse when I have to call him down, or point out his sins. None of this is warrant for baptism. I am looking for genuine repentance because he has sinned against and disappointed a thrice holy God, not remorse for disappointing me or others. I am looking for true faith, an all-in trust in Christ alone for salvation and an eager submission to Jesus as Lord. I can’t manufacture or convince him of this. I can, however, faithfully instruct him, and call him to faith and repentance, for God’s Glory alone. Soli Deo Gloria

Shelby Pruitt and his wife Michelle have three children and two grandchildren. Shelby grew up in Bullitt County, and was called into pastoral ministry while in his thirties. Shelby is blessed to be in his fifth year serving as the bi-vocational pastor at Eagle Heights Baptist Church of Shepherdsville.

This post was written by a contributor to the Pastor’s Blog Initiative. The viewpoints expressed in such posts are explicitly that of the author and not necessarily the Nelson Baptist Association. 

By: Matt Flanagan 

In both churches and other positions, success is often seen in acquiring positions that involve greater resources, greater numbers, and greater opportunities.  It is upward mobility.  If one is really doing a good work at one location, wouldn’t the natural move be to do the same work in a new and better place?  The plight of ministers is often to be on the search for the next great opportunity.  This seems to be the only way to increase in church size, opportunity, and pay.  The statistics of a minister’s tenure bear this reality: either we are looking to move up or we are looking to move out (perhaps another blog). 

As a sophomore in college, FBC Junction City approached me about serving as their part-time Student Minister.  Though I did not understand my call to ministry at this point in my life, it seemed a great way to serve Christ in the church.  My first Bible study had three of us: me and two other boys.  And in fact, for the next couple of years, that is typically all that came.  However, I did not see this as any failure.  I did not know what success or failure really was at that point.  As these two young men (and me too) began to grow in Christ, the Lord began to bring more and more students to this smaller country church.  As graduation from college neared in my future; I could not consider leaving what God was doing in this church.  I had only been there three years.  I made a choice to continue my education at a location that would allow me to continue to serve at this church.  It was an incredible blessing to see God grow a group of young people (who were just a few years younger than me); one that I would have completely missed without making the decision to stay put for a while.

As I near completion of my tenth year in Student Ministry at Parkway, God has taught me some incredible lessons about the value of remaining in one church for a longer period of time.  My prayer is that these would serve as an encouragement for pastors to value the call and church that God has placed you rather than seeing the current situation as a stepping stone to the next church.

My Family

Aside from the struggles of changing homes, schools, and neighbors, the blessing of my immediate family embracing and connecting long term with their church family has been tremendous.  Parkway is their church.  There is no sense in our home that we will leave one day (though we must be obedient if God does move us).  We are in with both feet.  There are no reservations or guarded walls in fear of future separation.

Growth in Ministry

Let’s face it, we all have experienced ministry such as sermons, Bible studies, events, and training that have worked well.  Some might call this our “bag of tricks.”  What do we do when these things run out?  Do we look for a new venue or do we continue to be learners so that we can faithfully shepherd people?  Serving in one place for a long time requires a transparency and authenticity about our own growth and obedience to the Lord.

Multiplication

I am grateful that there are many other leaders in our Student Ministry that are as capable as I am to lead, teach, counsel, and disciple.  However, this is never the case on arrival at a church.  This is the fruit of sharing long term ministry together.  For those of us that would describe ourselves as “task-oriented,” this is must become our priority.  Yes, it is often easier to do it ourselves than train someone else.  However, it is not about what is easy; discipleship is a process that involves sharing our lives and ministry with key people.

Relationships

Felicia and I have been blessed to experience wonderful friends in every church that we have served.  However, as God as allowed us to raise our children, work alongside, serve in ministry and missions, attend ball games and community events, and simply share meals with the families of Parkway for so many years it has allowed a depth of friendship and relationships that many other ministry friends of mine do not have. 

Life Change

And finally (and the best) blessing of staying put is seeing authentic growth in people that God has entrusted to your care.  To see the journey of a shy seventh grader enter your ministry and now watch them serve across the globe is a blessing that only comes with long term tenure.  Our faithful preaching, teaching, and discipling plants and waters the seed; though it is God that does the growing.  However, it is a great blessing to see His work over an extended period of time.

Matt is currently the Pastor of Discipleship and Student Ministry at Parkway Baptist Church and has been the Youth Pastor since 2005. Matt has held youth ministry positions at three other churches: FBC Junction City, KY; Calvary Baptist Church Danville, KY; and FBC Jesup, GA.

Matt Grew up on the family farm in Campbellsville, Kentucky as the youngest son to Dan & Ginny Flanagan. After graduating Taylor County High School Matt enrolled at Centre College to obtain a degree in mathematics and physics. Later attending the University of Kentucky to  pursue graduate studies in chemical engineering. Matt received his Masters in Theology from Campbellsville University. He has been married to Felicia for 17 years and have been blessed with two boys, Caleb (13) and Eli (10).